“Why are some people so good at what they do whereas others struggle with the most basic of tasks? Have you ever wondered if you were capable of achieving more in your work and life?”
This is how the guest blogger Jeff Goins, author of How to Become Better Than You Ever Thought Possible, started his post for Michael Hyatt, The Virtual Mentor, a peak performance coach. [His quotes from the post are in italics for clarity.]
Goins continues with a story about Mozart, who most believe was an unusually gifted musician. However, Mozart’s father was also a musician who worked with him almost full time from the age of 4. Goins states that Mozart by age 7 had put in as many hours as a graduate from Julliard School in New York City. Goins says that Mozart had the same gift “we all are born with… your ability to learn, and grow, and adapt.”
He went on to say, “people who appeared to be “gifted,” were, in fact, no more gifted than you or I. They had just learned how to practice.”
Years ago one of my mentors told me not to worry too much about competition from those who said they’ve been in the field 20 years. He said that too many of those actually have only one year of practice they’ve repeated 20 times! The concept of real practice, focused practice, what Goins calls “deliberate practice,” is apparently not a common practice!
Because it is not just practice, it is learning how to practice in a focused way, a way that allows you focus on what you want most to learn, and to receive quality feedback from others who have more knowledge and skill than you have at the time. Too many people do not seek such feedback as they fear they will be criticized. Their fear makes them shy away thereby missing a huge opportunity to grow. Find people who will give you honest feedback in a respectful way – feedback is not criticism.
Michael Gladwell popularized the concept of 10,000 hours to mastery. But it’s not just the hours. Having feedback and a mentor means you can benefit from others “10,000 hours.”
Goins continues with three suggestions to excellence.
First: “What you think about you become.” Ford is given credit for saying, “If you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” So I would like to suggest that you have a develop that mindset that Goins calls “deliberate-practice.”
Secondly: Goins calls it deliberate practice. It’s far bigger than affirmations like Emil Coue’s injunction, “Every day in every way I am getting better and better.” Although that is a terrific affirmation! Goins says that, if you’re not achieving greatness (i.e. the success you are after) then it may be time to surround yourself with others who will challenge you to grow.
We all love heroic tales of overnight success, but the truth is expertise is never an accident. Without the right training, peak performance is practically impossible.
Deliberate practice means you “push yourself past what you think is possible.” And, while I’m quoting others let’s use a couple more: Susan Jeffers, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway,” and Nike, after all, is right: “Just Do It.” These are great sayings but all are certainly “easier said than done.”
We often find that until we deal with our emotional brain, often full of negative emotions like fear, it is much harder for our cognitive brain to believe those positive – but cognitive thoughts like the affirmation above. This is where doing our own work with EFT either on our own (harder) or with an experienced person is useful. I know you hear this a lot from folks steeped in the EFT world – but there it is – working on yourself is critical to real growth in your chosen profession!
Thirdly, Goins says in addition to mindset and deliberate practice is to “Get around greatness. It’s not just mindset or practice that affects our performance. It’s also our environment. This means that putting yourself around others who will challenge you and help you grow is essential to mastering any skill.”
We all love heroic tales of overnight success, but the truth is expertise is never an accident. Without the right training, peak performance is practically impossible.”
Speaking of surrounding yourself with experienced positive people, in August in Atlanta an AAMET EFT Level 3 is being offered by myself, Nancy Gnecco and Jondi Whitis. Three days, three trainers, one terrific opportunity to expand your knowledge and yourself. What a great opportunity to meet and increase your network of supportive, experienced people with EFT experience.
You do not need to be certified by AAMET as a practitioner to attend. You do need sufficient knowledge of the EFT concepts [Go get and read the books EFT Level 1&2 for a terrific review – and Level 3] but you won’t need to be certified yet to attend. You can also attend if you have been trained under another organization.
More information about EFT Level 3
NOTE: The Michael Hyatt blog these quotes are from can be found at